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#KateSpade’s passing is honestly a blow to the chest right now. Kate Brosnahan Spade, 55, was found hanging in her NYC apartment on Tuesday, June 5th, 2018. I couldn’t put my finger on why her passing affected me so much, until having a talk with Chartay (@mzcharmonique). She told me, “It’s always harder to hear that (suicide) because it’s like life became that hard that someone felt like they’re only way out was to permanently check out. And probably because she’s in the field that you’re in.”

Kate Spade is in the field that I am in. Kate spade is ultimate fashion GOALS, that’s why hearing of her apparent suicide touched me the way that it did.

Chartay(@mzcharmonique) has known me since I was 11 years old, so she knows my deep rooted passion for fashion, design, and writing. We work to be Kate Spades, we bust our asses to attend their shows. We idolize these people that are in the position we are working to get into, but these people aren’t happy. We have to learn to have complete faith in God and his ability to guide us through.

What we should’ve learned from this last month is that mental health is not a joke.

We laugh at the #KanyeWest of the world, we leave them to fend for themselves when they’re silently fighting a battle we know nothing about. #Suicide is always a sensitive subject for me because I lost a classmate to suicide at 10 years old. To hear that your classmate hung himself in a basement at 10 years old will scar you for life. On the other hand, I have had times when I’ve felt completely out of my mind for working so hard and trying to juggle so much at once, just to touch a fraction of the success that Kate Spade has had. In tough times, I have to step back and ask myself if this journey is worth my sanity? We have to remember to breathe, pray, and keep going.

We have to remember to take care of ourselves in the midst of the craziness. We have to remember why we started and the happiness that we gained from the smaller wins. We have to remember that without a #healthy #mentalstate we have NOTHING. Find #happiness in the smallest of things. On your #journey, don’t become so consumed that you forget that your purpose is to serve not only yourself, but those around you.

Thank you, Kate Spade, you are a pioneer and an influence to many.